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Humiliation as a source of encouragement.
« on: January 13, 2012, 11:04 PM »
Hi, guys.
I am supposed to write an article on the topic " Humiliation as an source of encouragement".
I am a pretty much good writer when I have some ideas. But I m lacking them a little now. :-\
I want to use the typical teacher-student, parent-child relation as an example. But I am unable to figure out much else.

I need your help please. :)

I asked this in the gd section as via the discussion i can gain some rather helpful clues.

I would be reallly grateful for any and all help.
 

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Re: Humiliation as a source of encouragement.
« Reply #21 on: July 31, 2012, 12:58 AM »
Pretty much what was posted just before this.  Humiliation is NOT a source of encouragement.  98.9% of the time, it will bite you where you sit if you use it.  I had a teacher to that do me.  She earned my undying hatred.  I still hate her.  Instead of explaining what I was doing wrong and showing me or helping me do it right, she chose that method. I have no kind words to say for her and I think anyone who actually liked her is a fool.  She was mean and totally useless as a teacher.  I know.  I've been a teacher also. 

Shame can be a healthy thing when used properly.  Shame based behaviors have to be large taboos.  Such as sleeping with your sister, killing a pet, hurting a child for enjoyment, stealing from others and depriving them of a source of life that the item you took can bring.  These are shameful acts.  They are designed to prevent something that has far reaching consequences.  When you employ shame or humiliation as encouragement whatever your justification you run the major risk of making the person Shameless.   That means nothing shames them.  They become immune to the consequences. 

It is like Nagging.  Nagging works IF and only if you use it very sparingly and when the desired results are obtained you shut up and do not bring up the subject again.  If you keep on nagging, be it about the same subject or something else, Nagging stops working.  I mean if you are going to nag no matter what I do why should I bother?  I might as well do what I want because no matter what I do, the consequences are the same.   The same goes for Humiliation.  Use it even more sparingly than Nagging and only for grievous sins.

 Not doing your homework is NOT a grievous sin.  You make them shameless enough and they start bringing automatic weapons into a school.
 

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Re: Humiliation as a source of encouragement.
« Reply #22 on: September 25, 2012, 09:12 AM »
I also do not think that Humiliation is a source of encouragement. Sometimes, people who reprimanded others or humiliated others also did the same things themselves. So what kind of an example or role model are they setting when they are passing judgment and punishment on a person's conduct but end up altering their behaviour to match the other person who are been humiliated?

I agree with RainbowPotato that humiliation only encourage hatred for the person. Beside that, deep resentment as well. It is always easy to forget a small kindness but for a small humiliation, never does anyone forget and for some, never forgive.

 

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Re: Humiliation as a source of encouragement.
« Reply #23 on: October 06, 2012, 12:34 AM »
I wouldn't think humiliating someone would encourage them.  I think it would encourage the person to feel bad about themselves, which often leads to discouragement: "Why should I even try, I'm no good anyway", etc.
Helping someone feel good about themselves, praising them: "I know you can do it.  I have confidence in you.  Let's try it together", etc. would result in giving the person the strength/encouragement to try.  Even if they didn't succeed, at least they wouldn't feel like a total loser: "I can't do anything right", etc.

I've taught children and saw first-hand the difference it can make.  Often when children are humiliated as a rule, they often grow up and treat others the same way. 

Have we ever been humiliated?  Do we remember how it felt?  Did it encourage us?
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