Fortunately it does exist!
Though I am a little concerned with your man 'forbidding' books you read. Shouldn't you be able to decide what books you want to read?
Your man is concerned about graphic sex scenes but he doesn't have a problem with a guy throwing a woman over his knee (like she's a child) - and we're not even supposed to treat children like that! ?
And why does a woman need to be 'kept in line'?
But those are topics for another day.
You are in luck, however, as there are many people who like to read novels where a lot is 'left up to the readers' imagination'.
I've heard of a book entitled: 'A Dash Of Spice; Erotica for Good People' - Francis W. Porretto, ed. ©2009. (If you don't want to completely give up on erotica, just people exchanging body fluids, slappin' body parts together, etc.)
As Ms. Porretto describes in the book, it is "...People who strive to do unto others as they would have others do unto them. People who yearn to love and be loved...
Good luck and happy reading