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IMPACT OF FIGHTING ON CHILDREN
Adolescents, in this generation, have become quite a lot more sensitive than they were known to be earlier. In the ancient times, adolescents were sent to ashrams – their whole teenage period was focused on studies, no distractions or diversions. However, centuries have progressed and times have changed. Children began to be exposed to the real world, perhaps more quickly than their maturation, the time they will be prepared for it.
If the children find their parents fighting, arguing, quarrelling or any other form of strong disagreement, it disturbs their mental state greatly. It isn’t a compulsion or even a possibility that our parents, elders for that matter, must always see eye to eye with each other. There can be situations where dissatisfactions or disappointments lead to many strong aggressive fights. It is not always possible to conceal them. But again, their wards are away at school, at play, tuitions and many other places for long hours. They do have ample time to reach to an agreement through discussions.
Sometimes, their disagreements open up before their wards, which can be immensely distressing to them. The parents or guardians should understand that in our early teens and preteens we have not matured enough to see through such fights, find the actual cause, sort out of the entangled mess and provide with a suitable solution. Children don’t like being put in situations where they have to choose one parent over the other. It could easily distance them from their parents and further the ongoing animosity. The minds and hearts of young children during their teens are no different from a pure white sheet. Any kind of color leaves a deep imprint on it, especially the darker ones. After the sheet is colored, not much change could be brought in it, however hard one tries. Whatever once inscribes itself on the sheet won’t be easily erased, if it can be at all.
If, unfortunately, children witness their parents hitting each other, the respect they hold in their hearts for their parents diminishes. They could very easily begin to fear them. Such situations can very well lead to dire consequences if not kept in hand. Many psychological problems found in children may have their roots in an unhappy childhood they might have experienced. These fights also decide the kind of an adult the child will grow up into. The child’s immediate environment greatly influences his future being.
Adolf Hitler, for example, the German dictator, played a very important role in the progression of the World War II. In his childhood, he was quite poor. While he was growing up, The League of Nations had imposed many harsh laws on Germany. He spent his youth in an atmosphere of fights, violent at times. So, when he slowly rose to power and became the dictator, he killed the Jews in mass numbers, without a trace of mercy. He had also introduced many other unforgiving laws.
Such a terrible situation, perhaps, could have been prevented, had it not been for his unkind childhood environment. Unable to extract himself from such a condition, led to the making of the Adolf Hitler as we know of today. In a way, he is to be pitied, considering the fact that it wasn’t something he was offered much choice in.
I am not saying that parents should always be in agreement. It is not possible, I accept, for any two people living in such close quarters. There will be disagreements, no doubt. But, shouldn’t some kind of an effort be made to conceal it, if not fully then partially at least?